The greatest thing about talking to the person besides you is that you not only can bring radiance to someone, they can also create a treasured experience for you to remember.
On a flight leaving Newark Airport, I sat beside Evangelia. Just one look at her face, revealed a woman full of triumph and an untold love story. Evangelia left Greece to come to the North America when she was 21, met her son-to-be-husband while in Canada, moved to NY, and left the northern cold so that her husband could be happy. Moving south of NY didn’t make Evangelia bitter, giving up things for each other was something that both her and her husband seemed to do quite often.
When Evangelia spoke of her husband, you could see a love story unfurl. She spoke of a man who never abused her, didn’t abuse drugs, or fraternized with other women. These days marriage is sounding more like an arrangement with an exit clause a failure rate of 50% to 70% or more depending on who you ask. However, Evangelia and her late husband did everything together until she became a widow 10 years ago. The look of loss from losing her loving husband was a feeling that transferred to me. You see, Evangelia married her sole mate, her facial expression said it all, and her eyes said it most. They loved each other to the fullest. It was sad when I saw light fade from Evangelia as she reminisced in silence about her husband’s absence. That’s when I asked her about her children, grandchildren, and great grand children. Then her face blossomed again. =) She even took out pictures she took while visiting.
Family is so important to Evangelia. Not only does she carry a beautiful locket that she found at a garage sale for $2 of her and her husband. but Evangelia also carried pictures of her family. It was an honor to see the generational images of individuals surrounding the matriarch of the family. If I could sit again with Evangelia, I’m sure that she can share the secrets of a healthy marriage. From our short meeting, I have a sneaky feeling that Evangelina would say something about not making minor things a major catastrophe is the secret to being happy.
My embarrassment is that I am able to remember a complicated name such as Evangelia, who goes by the nickname Lisa, but cannot remember the simplier name of her husband.
The greatest thing about talking to the person besides you is that you not only can bring radiance when they speak to you, they can also create a treasured experience for you to remember. Thank you Evangelia. You are a phenomenal woman.