Dealing with Friends Who Lash Out

Posted on October 23, 2015, 12:05 am
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We all have bad days from time to time.

It may be due to work, family, relationship problems, or disappointments, or stress.  Often times, we fail to understand others problems and empathize with them in a way that will comfort them. But what if someone you are close to gets moody? If anyone close to you becomes constantly irritated, due to their lack of self control, what do you do?

Do you shout back and storm out of sight, swearing to never lay eyes on them again? Or do you remain calm, take the hit, and try to calm your friend down? If it’s the latter, then you’re good to go.  If it is the first option, then you need to stop and take a hard make some personal reflections.


The headlines have enough bad people in the spotlight.  Ideally the only solace we should find is knowing someone who has our back. They try to reason with us and help us understand how we feel, then they help try to make us feel better. The most important people you need in your life establish personal connections with you- whether it be your family, fair weathered friend, or people you have met through the course of your life.  They are important. They are familiar, and when either of you gets out of character, it is the other’s duty to find out what’s wrong and extend support.

When a friend is being a little distant, try to talk with them about what’s bothering them. If they don’t want to talk, then do whatever you can to make them feel better; like doing the small things that they like….make them laugh, write a short note to show that you care, take them on an outing.

Sometimes the best medicine is giving your friend space.  Don’t force them to do anything they don’t want to.  Don’t lash out with physical or verbal assaults.

Motivation, and edification, can make anyone feel special instead of making them feel horrible. They will surely thank you for being so supportive, and I can assure you that something like that coming from a friend is one of the best feelings ever.

Arlene Summers secret was exposed when the local paper headlined her recovery from homeless story. She knew that if she didn't do something different she would live with regrets for the rest of her life. That challenge was her shift to never want to be in that position again. Since then, Arlene's help is like having someone hold your hand from start to finish and every step in between.

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